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jenjen asked:


I am 14 years old and I am a fraternal twin. We are both girls but my sister had ADHD. When we were little we got along really well but then the changes became more noticeable. She is extremely immature and can sometimes be rude without meaning to.She is rule obsessed and is so argumentative that I sometimes want to slap her acroos the face. We go to the same school now but we will be going to different high schools next year. It is hard going to the same school as her because she creates problems with friends and also doesn’t make as good of grades as I do. I get straight A’s and she gets mostly B’s and sometimes C’s. This makes me fell like I can’t be happy at home because of her resentment. The biggest problem is at home because my parents try to make things fair to her but make it worse for me. They give her more praise on her 3.0 grade average than my 4.0 and give her so much attention when she just remembers to brush her teeth! I am expected to do so much more chores than her.
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I am sometimes even expected to do her chores. I was seeing a therapist for a while but now less and less. The worst part is that a while ago, my mom asked me if my sister could see her for prescribing medicine to her (she is also an M.D.) and only that. I told her I was uncomfortable with it but she guilt tripped me into it by saying that I could be helping the whole family and do I really want to stop that? Now whenever there is a problem, they call the therapist, my therapist, and my sister has sessions with her even though she is seeing someone else. I am so angry and get tension headaches and my parents ask what is wrong and say that I can tell them anything but I don’t really think they want to listen and I have tried but they just make me feel worse. I feel sad at home and my twin ruins some of the happiness I feel at school. I am at my wits end and am asking for help. Please!
After reading the first comment, I thought I should add:
1. I do not have a school counselor
2. I feel comfortable with the therapist just angry that my parents care more about her to bring her to see my thereapist
3. We have had family sessions to no prevail
4. It is hard to look on the bright side of someone who is constantly angry at you for nothing and seemingly gets joy out of ruining your life