Comments on: My child has ADHD. Advice? http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice Helping you fight your ADHD Fri, 18 May 2012 13:56:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Delilah http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-45 Delilah Sun, 27 Jan 2008 19:10:38 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-45 Yes, ADHD is genetic. For the benefit of your stepson you should talk to his psychologist. If it turns out that he needs to be medicated to help with school, then it would be cruel to not give it to him. Not being able to focus at school can be really difficult. He will start to struggle and become frustrated. His self esteem may start to dwindle because he may do poorly at school, not because he isn't intelligent, but because his ADHD is preventing him from staying focused long enough to learn. If your husband can't see this, then you need to confirm it with the psychologist and write out a list of pros and cons. Yes, ADHD is genetic. For the benefit of your stepson you should talk to his psychologist. If it turns out that he needs to be medicated to help with school, then it would be cruel to not give it to him. Not being able to focus at school can be really difficult. He will start to struggle and become frustrated. His self esteem may start to dwindle because he may do poorly at school, not because he isn’t intelligent, but because his ADHD is preventing him from staying focused long enough to learn. If your husband can’t see this, then you need to confirm it with the psychologist and write out a list of pros and cons.

]]> By: dwawbadw http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-44 dwawbadw Fri, 25 Jan 2008 05:23:47 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-44 I say, you married the guy. So leave him alone quit trying to change him. ADHD is crap. I know some people really have it. But way too many people are being diagnosed with ADHD that should not be. Maybe this child has issues because of the divorce or seperation of his parents. Maybe there is some other stressful situation going on. I hope the child was not diagnosed in one or two sittings with a doctor or psychiatrist. I have a nephew that was diagnosed ADHD and I urged my sister to get a second and third opinion. Kids should not be given those meds if they do not really need them. And luckily she took my advice. He is not ADHD just stressed. It is called life people. Not ADHD. Maybe step-mom needs to **** out of the kids life. Having a step-mom would be quite stressful in its self. Not to mention stress of school and life. Have him re-evaluated. And make sure he is not diagnosed right away. It takes quite some time to diagnose this properly. I say, you married the guy. So leave him alone quit trying to change him.

ADHD is crap. I know some people really have it. But way too many people are being diagnosed with ADHD that should not be. Maybe this child has issues because of the divorce or seperation of his parents. Maybe there is some other stressful situation going on. I hope the child was not diagnosed in one or two sittings with a doctor or psychiatrist. I have a nephew that was diagnosed ADHD and I urged my sister to get a second and third opinion. Kids should not be given those meds if they do not really need them. And luckily she took my advice. He is not ADHD just stressed.

It is called life people. Not ADHD. Maybe step-mom needs to **** out of the kids life. Having a step-mom would be quite stressful in its self. Not to mention stress of school and life. Have him re-evaluated. And make sure he is not diagnosed right away. It takes quite some time to diagnose this properly.

]]> By: mamay http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-43 mamay Wed, 23 Jan 2008 11:28:59 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-43 Don't believe in ADHD, sorry. I think it is normal kid behavior that they haven't learned to deal with. Try getting him into some active sports and teach him to think for himself and reason through things! Don’t believe in ADHD, sorry. I think it is normal kid behavior that they haven’t learned to deal with. Try getting him into some active sports and teach him to think for himself and reason through things!

]]> By: sha D http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-42 sha D Sun, 20 Jan 2008 12:42:31 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-42 YES YES YES, ADHD is, in fact, inherited. My husband is just like yours and just laughs it off, but he DOES accept it since our oldest son has ADHD, but since medicated, has been truly excelling academically. In fact, my mother said that my brother exhibited the exact same issues when he was younger, but ADHD was not prevalant back in the early 70s. But, yes, allow the "professional" (since hubbies rarely listen and take us seriously) repeat what I am saying. Take care and understand when the meds are wearing off during the day. My son is on 45mg of Concerta (one dose in the a.m.) and by 5pm, he's acting "crazy". I have to understand it and adjust the happenings in the house to accommodate him. It's all good. YES YES YES, ADHD is, in fact, inherited. My husband is just like yours and just laughs it off, but he DOES accept it since our oldest son has ADHD, but since medicated, has been truly excelling academically. In fact, my mother said that my brother exhibited the exact same issues when he was younger, but ADHD was not prevalant back in the early 70s. But, yes, allow the “professional” (since hubbies rarely listen and take us seriously) repeat what I am saying. Take care and understand when the meds are wearing off during the day. My son is on 45mg of Concerta (one dose in the a.m.) and by 5pm, he’s acting “crazy”. I have to understand it and adjust the happenings in the house to accommodate him. It’s all good.

]]> By: carolyn http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-41 carolyn Sat, 19 Jan 2008 18:56:04 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-41 My son has ADHD also. I took him to a clinic at UNCG that only does ADHD. We are involved in a research project through them concerning the genetic component of ADHD. I personally do believe it runs in families. My ex husband showed a lot of the same symptoms when he was a child. It does tend to get better with age but my ex still shows some symptoms, mostly the impulse control issues. I would bring your concerns up in your family session. That's why you are there. And a quick side note to the people saying ADHD is not real and is not the cause of your son's problems...You have no idea what you're talking about. I agree ADHD is over diagnosed but some kids really DO have it and benefit greatly from behavior modification therapy, social skills groups and medication. My son went from just about failing & being a constant problem in school last year to a straight A student. My son has ADHD also. I took him to a clinic at UNCG that only does ADHD. We are involved in a research project through them concerning the genetic component of ADHD. I personally do believe it runs in families. My ex husband showed a lot of the same symptoms when he was a child. It does tend to get better with age but my ex still shows some symptoms, mostly the impulse control issues. I would bring your concerns up in your family session. That’s why you are there.

And a quick side note to the people saying ADHD is not real and is not the cause of your son’s problems…You have no idea what you’re talking about. I agree ADHD is over diagnosed but some kids really DO have it and benefit greatly from behavior modification therapy, social skills groups and medication. My son went from just about failing & being a constant problem in school last year to a straight A student.

]]> By: pooh bear http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-40 pooh bear Thu, 17 Jan 2008 04:12:44 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-40 You may not be able to help your husband much but before you medicate your son please read the book by Don Colbert,Bible cures for ADD or ADHD.Alot of this is caused by what kids eat, they eat so many processed food with red dyes and sugar and artifical sweetners and so on.Please just read the book ,I did not do everything in the book but you will see a big difference if you just do a few. Good luck You may not be able to help your husband much but before you medicate your son please read the book by Don Colbert,Bible cures for ADD or ADHD.Alot of this is caused by what kids eat, they eat so many processed food with red dyes and sugar and artifical sweetners and so on.Please just read the book ,I did not do everything in the book but you will see a big difference if you just do a few. Good luck

]]> By: epidemik http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-39 epidemik Sun, 13 Jan 2008 23:13:09 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-39 Everybody has ADHD nowadays. Get him into an activity he enjoys whether it is sports or some sort of club. Give him an outlet. Karate lessons or something. Please don't just subdue with meds. I think that is all a crock. I know ADHD is not the source of his problems. Everybody has ADHD nowadays. Get him into an activity he enjoys whether it is sports or some sort of club. Give him an outlet. Karate lessons or something. Please don’t just subdue with meds. I think that is all a crock. I know ADHD is not the source of his problems.

]]> By: !*!MaKaYlAsMoM!*! http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-38 !*!MaKaYlAsMoM!*! Sat, 12 Jan 2008 04:42:18 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-38 I would bring it up in the next meeting. I would bring it up in the next meeting.

]]> By: goss_austin http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-37 goss_austin Fri, 11 Jan 2008 21:02:17 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-37 Well did you drop him. if your husband has the same symptoms it could be hereditary but i belive that gene is usually caried by the mother so it would be you or someone in youyr family that gave it to him. but dont worry its not contagious and if they act up dont be affraid to get physical. Well did you drop him. if your husband has the same symptoms it could be hereditary but i belive that gene is usually caried by the mother so it would be you or someone in youyr family that gave it to him. but dont worry its not contagious and if they act up dont be affraid to get physical.

]]> By: bluefire61 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-36 bluefire61 Thu, 10 Jan 2008 06:09:19 +0000 http://adhdhelp.info/my-child-has-adhd-advice#comment-36 If you feel like you have to bring it up with your psychologist, then bring it up. If you want to resolve it at home, try to keep him heavily preoccupied with something like chores or (in his probable preference) video games or playing outside until he calms down If you feel like you have to bring it up with your psychologist, then bring it up. If you want to resolve it at home, try to keep him heavily preoccupied with something like chores or (in his probable preference) video games or playing outside until he calms down

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