What advice would anyone have for a stepmother of 2 boys with ADHD, what tools have you found to work?
Monday, September 11th, 2006
saintlyinnocents asked:
I have a 7 and 6 yr old who both were diagnosed with ADHD. My 1 yr old is showing no signs of it, but does imitate their behavior of course. Medication helps the 6 yr old, but the 7 yr old has not done well with medication and is no longer on it. Dealing with them each day and fighting over the same basic things that we were told would be good for them to do, (cleaning room, getting dressed, brushing teeth) always results in arguments. What works to get them to do these simple tasks without arguments, or dramatic screeches and groans?
I need to add that I would never put a 1 year old who does not show signs of any problem whatsoever on any type of medication.It is a necessity to prevent my 6 year old from harming both himself and other people as he was throwing desks and chairs at people and windows while in school. I have sat and argued with doctors about the dosage, etc to prevent either one of them from being overdosed or being placed on something that is not helping them. I removed my 7 yr old from all medication because 1)it had no effect and 2)made him ill and I refuse to allow him to be on any other types of medication. There is a possibility that the 6 yr old is also bi-polar and in that case will obviously need the help he can recieve. In extreme cases medication is a necessity simply to help a child function on a day to day basis. Their behavior is NOT normal, and therefore cannot be dealt with in a normal way. There are however simple ways of diverting them into these every day activities. Advice?
I have a 7 and 6 yr old who both were diagnosed with ADHD. My 1 yr old is showing no signs of it, but does imitate their behavior of course. Medication helps the 6 yr old, but the 7 yr old has not done well with medication and is no longer on it. Dealing with them each day and fighting over the same basic things that we were told would be good for them to do, (cleaning room, getting dressed, brushing teeth) always results in arguments. What works to get them to do these simple tasks without arguments, or dramatic screeches and groans?
I need to add that I would never put a 1 year old who does not show signs of any problem whatsoever on any type of medication.It is a necessity to prevent my 6 year old from harming both himself and other people as he was throwing desks and chairs at people and windows while in school. I have sat and argued with doctors about the dosage, etc to prevent either one of them from being overdosed or being placed on something that is not helping them. I removed my 7 yr old from all medication because 1)it had no effect and 2)made him ill and I refuse to allow him to be on any other types of medication. There is a possibility that the 6 yr old is also bi-polar and in that case will obviously need the help he can recieve. In extreme cases medication is a necessity simply to help a child function on a day to day basis. Their behavior is NOT normal, and therefore cannot be dealt with in a normal way. There are however simple ways of diverting them into these every day activities. Advice?